The first time I mentioned my feelings of sexuality to him truly thought he would always be my best friend and now I cannot stand to even look at him when he drops the children off. The court battle is horrible. If we could have only stopped at the first attorney and he would have listened and we could have gone to dinner and did everything in the best interest of the boys. I did not mean to hurt him. I really married my best friend, but it was the wrong thing to do because it only lead to years of frustration and issues for both of us because our marriage was a lie. What is he thinking today?
Whit
Hi Whit, it’s Pippy/Due
So sorry your divorce is so painful! I know what you mean when you say your husband is/was your best freind. Mine is too. We just got back form couples counseling where we talked more about the actual divorce…it’s strange, to talk about it, but I really want it now. He has been a good husband in the scheme of things. He took my “new life” pretty hard this past year, but is now more accepting. I’ve had two brief realtionships with L. women and both had problems with the fact that I was married, and that I talked to my husband about things. They just didn’t “get it.”
I’m thinking that one day you will be able to “know what he’s thinking” that he’s going through a lot himself right now, and will, in time, be more the person who was your husband, best friend, and father to your sons. This is all a process, can’t skip over any of it…it all takes time…hang in. you are doing the right thing. Best!